As we head into the 4th of July weekend, there’s no doubt that many of you will be celebrating the occasion with picnics, barbeques and family festivities. For those who serve as the primary caregiver for an elderly loved one, this time can serve as a chance for you to enjoy some relaxation and interact with others, as your loved one does the same.
To ensure a successful outing with your elderly loved one, consider the following as you begin to plan your weekend:
- Be mindful of your loved one’s diet restrictions. Hot dogs and hamburgers may sound good to you, but your elder companion may need to bring along a special platter. Make accommodations with your host to ensure that you can prepare any special food that you will be bringing with you.
- Consider the environment you will be in. Coordinate with your host to ensure that there will be proper shade, comfortable seating and a designated quiet space, in case the festivities and fireworks get a bit overwhelming.
- Dress Appropriately. Layered clothing is a good idea, no matter what type of wheatear you are expecting to be in. If it gets too hot, you can always remove layers and if the temperature drops, then you’re already prepared. Don’t forget the sunscreen.
- Seat your loved one in a central location. Ensure that your loved one is situated in a spot where others can sit around and socialize with them. This will allow your loved one to converse with others without requiring too much effort on their part. But it can also provide a chance for you mingle with other guests while your loved one enjoys the company around them.
- Identify the nearest restrooms, especially if your loved one requires assistance. In these cases it may be necessary to sit within a close distance of the restroom but agreeing on a discreet signal to alert you, can be just as effective and will also go a long way toward avoiding the embarrassment of your loved one.
- Remember they are an adult too. Although you want to ensure your loved one’s safety, it is important to avoid being overzealous about their needs. Keep an eye on them, but refrain from public arguments about what they can or can’t do. At times it may be necessary for you to intervene, but pull them aside and do it in private. The fact that you provide ongoing care does not make them a child.
For those of who have loved ones with communication challenges, keep in mind that socialization does not always involve speaking. Your loved one can still benefit from the experience of watching others interact or from simply being surrounded by friends and family. So don’t let challenges with communication affect your decision to bring them along. Although they cannot express it in words, they will likely benefit from the experience just as much as you.
